What a weekend we have had. If you've been keeping up with the blog you will remember that this was our all exciting, heavily anticipated court date, meet the parents and ultra sound with Momma B. As always we know there are no guarantees with adoption and pre adoption consent hearings, but at least it gives you a piece of mind that the mother is truly wanting to go through with the adoption. You'll also remember that although we have been working with Momma B since February she has only told her parents of her adoption plans just shy of 2 weeks. She and I spoke earlier in the week and made plans for lunch and both expressed our excitement about the day.
Well the hubs and I hit the road early to make it for court - we both had butterflies anticipating if she would actually show up. Well she did and the morning and court flew by and weren't nearly what we thought they would be. After lunch- without her mom :( - we headed over for the ultra sound. We were beyond amazed to see such a precious little one. We thought we would be crying but we laughed more and turned our heads from side to side trying to see what the nurse saw- eventually we started to make things out.
Fast forward to Saturday afternoon- we were out wandering around when we got a call from Momma B asking what we were doing and if we had a minute to chat- I hit the car speaker so the hubs could hear and we listened for what we hoped was great news. Instead we heard the words we had anticipated but never wanted to hear as she told us she had changed her mind and couldn't go through with the adoption. We pulled over in a parking lot and listened for about 30 minutes as she explained that she had visited her parents to talk about court and the ultra sound and her mom flipped out when the realization of her decision actually hit home. Remember, we always knew moms reaction was our wild card, but we were always reassured by Momma B (and her sister) that the parents would be supportive. We were hurt- but not shocked. I believe God had prepared our hearts for this about a month ago when I started to question a lot. Even this week after we ran into a hurdle about the amount of financial assistance we were giving her for the past 3 months I still felt... something( yes you have to pay expenses to the mom if they require it and our great state has no cap on that amount and the law protects the birth mother and not the adoptive parents). We listened and I refused to allow my voice to break or for her to hear any emotion- something in me wouldn't allow her that satisfaction. She apologized and said she would work to try to repay some of the money we had given her (some just the day before). We hung up, looked at each other and neither could find the words to say. This was our son that was no more, this was nearly $2000 that we would not get back, but more importantly this was Gods plan. The first words that filled our car in that silence were simple "well God just has a better plan for us"
We headed back to our hotel to freshen up and prepared to have our scheduled dinner with Momma J (trust me when I say our weekends are always packed when we make our visits). She was such a delight to see- she had been pretty sick and even hospitalized within the week (stop and say a sweet prayer for her) but was a trooper for still wanting to see us. She assured us that our sweet baby girl was still healthy and more active than ever. Her initial concern about choosing us was that we were already working with another mom so we felt it best to be open with her and tell her about Momma B's decision to change her mind. She was very understanding After great food, good music, and laughs galore we called it a night. She was so thoughtful to bring us ultra sound pictures and share her doctors plan to induce so we can be there.
Sunday was already planned to be eventful as we had purchased tickets to attended a fundraiser event for the non profit Adoption Rocks. We attended and were pleasantly surprised to meet so many families that had been affected by adoption. Our attorney was there and encouraged us to have lunch with yet another mom. We made contact and were now headed to our second "lunch" for the day with Momma T. She was so sweet and funny. She opened the conversation pretty direct by saying "the attorney showed me profiles a while ago and I looked at yours and instantly new I wanted you guys- I just didn't know until now that I could meet you" ( did you just get that chill too :)?! ) The hubs and I looked at each other and silently had a "moment" - she went on to say that she was 34 weeks- due June 4th and was having a little boy!!!! I sat in that booth in awe of how amazing my God is- not my will, but His will be done. Less than 24 hours before Momma B backed out on us and here we were with a mom that had picked us weeks ago to parent her son. We stayed about an hour and left feeling better than ever. The only thing I could say was "look at my God work"- what He has for you is for you, it's as simple as that.
With all of the events of this weekend- the highs and the lows we still stand rooted that our sweet heavenly Father is in control. Losing those $2000 is a big blow for us- but we're confident that God's will will prevail. Our attorney told me once to start thinking about our adoption process as a ministry and think of how God wants to use us in the lives of these young women- that is something I've thought of often this weekend. I'm certain there is and was a reason for us to work with Momma B and although its hard for us to see now- I know Gods sees and knows everything.
We are so thankful for your continued prayers and support- continue to keep us, Momma B, Momma J, and now Momma T lifted all along our Anderson Adventure.
Sunday, April 29, 2012
Sunday, April 15, 2012
Be Still and Know that I am God...
Have you ever had such big news that you couldn't contain yourself and you actually had to make yourself not scream it to the world?! Well for us that has been our position for about 2 weeks. Of course we've mentioned our great news to our family but we had to ensure that they too wouldn't say anything until the time was right.
Well here is goes. A few weeks ago we were contacted by our attorney to let us know that we had finally been scheduled for a court date with Momma B! We've been waiting for a while on this and we were thrilled that everything had finally made the court docket. The great thing about court is that Momma B will sign her adoption intent and we will have the papers we need to visit Eian in the nursery, have access to Momma B's medical records,make medical decisions if needed and most importantly bring our son home! We were also able to plan and Momma B will have a 4D ultra sound that same day. The hubs and I are betting who will cry first! As always even after we've signed all these papers, state law still gives her 5 days to change her mind after he's born, but we're believing God has already worked that out.
Well later this same day, as if getting the great news about court wasn't enough, our attorney emailed me again to tell me 1) to sit down 2) that I would never believe this and 3) she had met with a 2nd birth mom who was having a little girl in July,as well, who had selected us only for her baby!!!!!! That's right our son is due July 2nd and we will now welcome our daughter home who is due July 31st! Hyperventilation was an understatement and in that moment I was yet again reassured of Gods unfailing love for our family. Can you imagine that?!
We are so proud to welcome our son Eian and daughter Gracyn home in a few months! Our attorney told us we would be the third couple she has worked with where this has happened and she said the others raised their little ones as twins. Well the hubs and I are going to follow and have dubbed our babies the non fraternal- fraternal twins! We figure that with their due dates they would only be a month a part at the most or a few days or weeks. I have laughed because I said I wouldn't know what to do if God worked it out so perfectly that they actually came on the same day??!!
Well as before we got all this news on a Tuesday or Wednesday and were headed back on the road on that Friday to meet with our new mom, Momma J. It was wonderful because not only did we have lunch with Momma J but also her mother which was a big step for us. Her family is completely on board with her decision and, trust me, it makes a big difference. ** side note- please stop and say a sweet prayer for Momma B who still hasn't told her parents about the adoption- she says it's coming soon but lift her up ** Well after our lunch we played the waiting game to hear back on whether or not Momma J had finalized on us. My heart was so set that she would pick us that I walked in faith and moved forward. We went ahead and set up the nursery to accommodate two, contacted day care to let them know we would have two babies in the fall, and as you can see we named the baby- some before we met Momma J for the first time that Friday and all before we heard anything back. That's the confidence I have in my God! Well yesterday I got a call directly from Momma J letting me know that she had chosen us and she told me about her last and next doctors appointments- she even told me that her doctors were on board and would schedule to induce so that we could make sure we didn't miss anything!
You know, I told the hubs over dinner one night that after getting the good news from our attorney the only thing that played over and over in my head was the day I sat in the fertility doctors office and listened to him tell me that the only way we would likely have a family was by IVF. I now find myself laughing and simply whispering "but God...".
A few months ago when the enemy tried to place so much doubt in my mind my devotional one morning started with Psalms 46:10 " be still and know that I'm God"... From that day until today it's what keeps us moving forward, walking in faith, all along our Anderson Adventure
Well here is goes. A few weeks ago we were contacted by our attorney to let us know that we had finally been scheduled for a court date with Momma B! We've been waiting for a while on this and we were thrilled that everything had finally made the court docket. The great thing about court is that Momma B will sign her adoption intent and we will have the papers we need to visit Eian in the nursery, have access to Momma B's medical records,make medical decisions if needed and most importantly bring our son home! We were also able to plan and Momma B will have a 4D ultra sound that same day. The hubs and I are betting who will cry first! As always even after we've signed all these papers, state law still gives her 5 days to change her mind after he's born, but we're believing God has already worked that out.
Well later this same day, as if getting the great news about court wasn't enough, our attorney emailed me again to tell me 1) to sit down 2) that I would never believe this and 3) she had met with a 2nd birth mom who was having a little girl in July,as well, who had selected us only for her baby!!!!!! That's right our son is due July 2nd and we will now welcome our daughter home who is due July 31st! Hyperventilation was an understatement and in that moment I was yet again reassured of Gods unfailing love for our family. Can you imagine that?!
We are so proud to welcome our son Eian and daughter Gracyn home in a few months! Our attorney told us we would be the third couple she has worked with where this has happened and she said the others raised their little ones as twins. Well the hubs and I are going to follow and have dubbed our babies the non fraternal- fraternal twins! We figure that with their due dates they would only be a month a part at the most or a few days or weeks. I have laughed because I said I wouldn't know what to do if God worked it out so perfectly that they actually came on the same day??!!
Well as before we got all this news on a Tuesday or Wednesday and were headed back on the road on that Friday to meet with our new mom, Momma J. It was wonderful because not only did we have lunch with Momma J but also her mother which was a big step for us. Her family is completely on board with her decision and, trust me, it makes a big difference. ** side note- please stop and say a sweet prayer for Momma B who still hasn't told her parents about the adoption- she says it's coming soon but lift her up ** Well after our lunch we played the waiting game to hear back on whether or not Momma J had finalized on us. My heart was so set that she would pick us that I walked in faith and moved forward. We went ahead and set up the nursery to accommodate two, contacted day care to let them know we would have two babies in the fall, and as you can see we named the baby- some before we met Momma J for the first time that Friday and all before we heard anything back. That's the confidence I have in my God! Well yesterday I got a call directly from Momma J letting me know that she had chosen us and she told me about her last and next doctors appointments- she even told me that her doctors were on board and would schedule to induce so that we could make sure we didn't miss anything!
You know, I told the hubs over dinner one night that after getting the good news from our attorney the only thing that played over and over in my head was the day I sat in the fertility doctors office and listened to him tell me that the only way we would likely have a family was by IVF. I now find myself laughing and simply whispering "but God...".
A few months ago when the enemy tried to place so much doubt in my mind my devotional one morning started with Psalms 46:10 " be still and know that I'm God"... From that day until today it's what keeps us moving forward, walking in faith, all along our Anderson Adventure
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| Pillow's I made to match the bedding |
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| We had to move Eian's crib to the other side of the room |
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| Corner view of the room |
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| We tried to keep the color pattern the same in the room, cute polka dot ladybugs |
Thursday, April 12, 2012
Counting Down
Well we are getting closer and closer to bring home our sweet little one! I think our ticker says a little over 2 months! We wanted to remind everyone that we are likely going to close our T-shirt fundraiser and paypal donation links at the end of the month (Monday April 30th). If you still had it on your heart to order a shirt or donate, please take advantage of these last few weeks! We'll keep you updated in the days to come...
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